How Good a Friend Are You, Really?
Ten honest questions. No judgment, just a mirror.
10 questions
How this quiz works
The questions cover the habits that tend to make or break friendships over time: who gets in touch first, how you handle disagreement, whether you keep confidences, how you apologize, and how you react when a friend does well. Each answer counts toward one of three results.
Getting a useful answer
Self-assessments are easy to skew. It helps to think of the last time each situation actually happened and answer with what you did then, not with what you would like to do. A tired or busy month can push anyone toward the more guarded answers, so a lower result says more about your current season than your character.
Small habits that matter
Research on friendship consistently points to the same few behaviors: regular contact, reliability, and showing up for both bad news and good news. Asking a follow-up question about something a friend mentioned last week is a small thing that people notice.
All three results
The Friend Everyone Wants
You show up, you say the honest thing kindly, and people know where they stand with you. You remember the details, keep confidences, and put in effort even when it is not returned straight away.
Strengths: Loyal, honest, and consistent. Friends trust you with the important things.
Watch out for: Giving this much can wear you down. Notice which friendships give back, and spend your energy there.
A Solid, Reliable Friend
You are dependable and you care. You might let a few things slide that are worth raising, and you sometimes wait for others to make the first move, but the people close to you know you are there when it counts.
Strengths: Easygoing, kind, and good company without the drama.
Watch out for: Small habits make a big difference: asking a follow-up question or getting in touch first now and then.
The Guarded Friend
You likely care more than you show. Holding back, waiting for others to reach out, or avoiding awkward conversations can be a way of protecting yourself, and it can leave friends unsure where they stand.
Strengths: You are self-reliant and rarely demanding of other people’s time.
Watch out for: Friendships tend to fade without effort from both sides. Picking one friend and reaching out first this week is a good start.